Sometimes we just have to be prepared

The saying is: "When life gives you lemons make lemonade." While that saying makes sense it really isn't helpful.  It is telling the person that if life deals you a bad hand or throws troubles your way, learn how to dodge the punches, and make the best out of the situation. The thing is that it is easier to just talk about lemons then really face what you are really supposed to be dealing with.

Everyone has troubles in their life, and at those moments it seems as if nothing can go right and you are stuck to deal with the problem.  No matter how big or small the trouble might seem to outside people.  That problem is a big deal to the person that it is happening to.  So there is no reason to judge other people's problems as compared to your own.  That just isn't how life works.

I think the best thing that people can do to help others and the people that they care about is to just be there as an ear for the majority of the time, and only use your mouth when necessary.  I've heard the saying that we are given two ears and one mouth, and we should use them in the same proportion, meaning use the ears more because we have two of them. Everyone just needs people to listen, even people that are used to just listening.  We all need someone to be there for us.

Who is that person in your life that could use your ears more? Who do you think needs someone to listen to them?

A poem to think about

So I am still working though the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris (don't get me wrong it is a great book, but I have been really busy with school) and there is a chapter titled Ready for the Sack but not for the Sacrifice it talks about how the majority of people think of marriage as one thing, while there is more to a marriage then the honeymoon or the wedding.  While all of those things can be great in those respects, it shouldn't be what we aim for when we think of marriage.

While I am still single I am called to remain holy in that vocation, but still prepare myself for whatever might come in the future.

That is a poem by Lena Lathrop titled "A Woman's Answer to a Man's Question". and I would really like to share it with you.

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing,
Ever made by the Hand above?
A woman's heart, and a woman's life- 
And a woman's wonderful love.


Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy?
Demanding what others have died to win,
With a reckless dash of a boy.


You have written my lesson of duty out,
Manlike, you have questioned me.
Now standing at the bars of my woman's soul
Until I shall question thee.


You require your mutton shall always be hoy, 
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart be true as God's stars
And as pure as His heaven, your soul


You require a cook for your mutton and beef,
I require a far greater thing;
A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts-0
I look for a man and a king.


A king for the beautiful realm called Home,
And a man that his Maker, God,
Shall look upon as He did on the first
And say: "It is very good."


I am fair and young, but the rose may fade
From this soft young cheek one day;
Will you love me then 'mid the falling leaves,
As you did 'mong the blossoms of May?


Is your heart an ocean so strong and true,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.


I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give this all, I will stake my life
To be all you demand of me.


If you cannot by this, a laundress and cook
You can hire and little to pay;
But a woman's heart and a woman's life
Are not to be won that way.

I think that this poem, while a bit outdated (she died just a bit before 1900), but I think that it has total truth in what she says. Read it again, there is more to a marriage than one night, or the other things that you will benefit from.

Well a final paper is calling my name, so that is all that I wanted to talk about right now.